let me tell you about intergenerational trauma

Let me tell you about intergenerational trauma how to#

Cultivating and nurturing those needs NOW, you can create transformation from intergeneration trauma and the clutter it creates in your life. Keeping things simple is my motto and I want to shift gears and take the approach of looking at basic needs not being met. How do you break the cycle and transform from the lineage of traumatic events? It means looking at how our actions, behaviours and points of view that keep us trapped in the past, or worrying about the future, instead of thriving and creating. Basic Needs Being MetĪs you can imagine, intergenerational trauma can be seen in all families to one degree or another.

Let me tell you about intergenerational trauma how to#

They never learn how to process their emotions or how to let go of resentments, old belongings and rigid points of view. For example, Bob never learned how to take care of himself now he is unable to teach his children how to pick up after themselves around the house. These areas get filled with unresolved tasks, emotions, thoughts, points of view and limiting beliefs. Clutter isn’t just the stuff in your physical spaces, it's also found in the way you use your time, your mind, body and spirit. Shame and shaming others is another huge factor that keeps the cycle going because sharing what happened is shameful, so secrets are kept and the abuse and dysfunctional dynamics continue.Īll of these coping mechanisms tend to create avoidance and denial which means dealing with life gets pushed aside, and the clutter builds up in all areas. There is a lot of conditional love, guilt tripping, scapegoating and secrets. There is a tendency to be extremely resistant to change.

What’s interesting is the way families cope with trauma is often counterproductive. This creates more trauma for his nuclear family causing this pattern to continue and passed down to his children. Bob then chooses to cope with this trauma by gambling and putting his own family into debt. For example, Bob was abused by his father, who was also abused by his own father. How people cope with trauma itself can create more trauma as well. They normalize these events allowing the cycle to continue. resentment in family membersįamilies who’ve experienced trauma tend to have isolation patterns instead of interacting with the world. seeing the world as a dangerous place where you can’t trust anyone domestic violence occurring over and over When trauma extends through multiple generations of the same family it can be considered intergenerational trauma. For example, cigarettes, alcohol, cosmetics, Neflix and other online platforms make it easy to disconnect, avoid and loose connection to your soul purpose. The disconnection from the mind, body and spirit plays a role along with the long list of coping mechanisms our society profits from. These experiences, emotions and points of view get trapped in us and as the unresolved trauma accumulates you may notice that each generation seems to struggle more and more around mental health and being able to manage their life.

I’d like to take it a step further in this month's blog and show you how intergenerational trauma goes beyond behaviours and gets carried into our points of view, energy and ways of being. There is a lot of talk lately around trauma and the effects it has on us.